The problem, though, is that such guys are often shy - practically homebodies - so they're hard to find.In my opinion, what's attractive in a guy in his 40s or older is that he's more likely to have his shit together, personally and professionally.They see me as a slightly older contemporary, as one of their peers.
When I finally tell them the truth--that I'm old enough to be their father--they don't really care.And he went on to say it would be even hotter if I were in my 30s or 40s !!??I'm 30 years old and have been seeing a 44 year old guy for about 10 months. I know there are guys my age who prefer older men, and not necessarily just for money.I also noticed that many â [bold]not all,[/bold] but many â of the ones who are available:(1) only want to date guys who are in their 20s and early 30s;(2) have never been in a long-term relationship; if you are in your 50s, and you have never had a relationship that lasted longer than a few dates or a few months, that could be a real problem;(3) just gave up on themselves, i.e., decided that they no longer had to take care of how they look (as in they donât go near a gym and make exceptionally poor eating choices), and complain about their âailmentsâ as if they are 85 and in a nursing home;(4) are either just plain weird or have a harsh, bitter, jaded edge that is really unpleasant to be around. As I said, slim, but not nonexistent, so, hope springs eternal. It's a little annoying to me, but anyway it happens so you might as well try. Because younger guys looking for older men are looking for someone to take care of them.Iâm very involved in the community, have a lot of friends and a fantastic dog, and never lack for things to do or people to do them with. Or, in the short term, buy them things and take them on trips.