They have become so consumed with finding someone to meet their needs and give them a sense of significance that real living has taken a backseat.
Some unlifers just withdraw completely and give up.
Take it from Confucius, the philosopher: "Desperation produces perspiration, and perspiration stinks on anybody." 2.
Dependence A dependent person gains a sense of significance and security through others.
They have convinced themselves that life isn't worth pursuing with any sort of passion if they don't have a boyfriend or girlfriend.
Whether they are obsessed with finding The One or are completely jaded to the thought because their hearts have been broken, these are the ones who have contracted the fatal disease of the un-life.
These desperate people go to places, including youth group functions, only to check out the girls or become friends with so-and-so because her brother is good-looking.
Unfortunately their urge-to-merge strategy inevitably hits a dead end: they end up using people, having a miserable time, developing a bad reputation, and scaring off the person they hoped to attract in the first place.
If you keep these ten commandments of dating, your relationships will run more smoothly, you'll protect yourself from broken hearts, and you'll be on your way to building loving, lasting relationships!
Commandment 1 Thou Shalt Get a Life It's on a Friday afternoon, and you've got the whole weekend ahead of you.
You grab something to eat and plop down in front of your computer to check your e-mail.
As you scroll through the junk mail and the billionth ad for a GAP clearance sale, your cell phone suddenly rings-it's your boyfriend of two months. well, I just don't know if I have time for a girlfriend.
Anticipating plans for a fun night out, you eagerly answer in your sweetest voice, "Hello? Maybe we should think about just being friends." "Whatever ... Have a nice time with your friends." You hang up on him, hoping you left him thinking that you couldn't care less what he does with his life or who he spends it with. You spend most of the weekend on the couch, watching reruns of That '70s Show on TV.