Next day, while he thought I was already at my friend's house, another multi-hour text conversation ensued, which I did engage in, but it felt like, "damn, he apparently doesn't take into account that I'm with friends." I made it a point to end the conversation and that I was gonna go hang with my friends.Texts keep coming in thereafter, like "hey," "hey u," "whatcha doin," etc. Following day he's quiet; I send a text to say what's up, in a chill way, nothing more beyond that. Then today, text messages asking, "what time are we meeting? " Again, without there ever having been any variation in the plan, and with the details having been decided quickly a few days prior.More texting the day after that, and then a phone conversation early in the week, asking me out for dinner, which we determine will be at this restaurant by the hospital and will be at 6pm. The exchanges are usually in the tone of questions inclined towards getting to know the other person, e.g., what are your likes/dislikes, etc., so it has the flavor of someone taking interest in me which has its appeal, etc. He does the same ****ing **** with the over-confirmation, as if this dude has never been on a ****ing date before. I decided not to hold back and responded with, "didnt we discuss this the other day?I have told him multiple times that my work schedule is Tues/Wed/Thurs, and he's always all, "oh, I didn't know you were working tonight," etc. How come you seem to get every text I send you but then don't pay attention to the ones about when/where we meet up? " Claimed to not have gotten the text, then claimed to be confused, etc.
Long story, but figure it's worth giving the full chronology: About 2 weeks ago, I was working an overnight shift at the hospital (I'm a nurse and usually work nights) and had occasion to interact VERY briefly with a guy who we'll call Steve, who is a security guard for the hospital.
It can seem innocent and yet it seems excessive at the same time, and this was all without even having the coffee date yet.
I recognized at the beginning of this that he tends to come on strong, but a weird feeling about this started to evolve.
I considered canceling the date, but decided to go.
During dinner, he's asking what plans I have for the weekend, and to me, it appears he does this in ways that are inclined towards figuring out my schedule.