Guys think they can hide their intentions for a relationship with a woman by being a friendly friend and then magically become her boyfriend somewhere along the line.
But then their feelings aren't usually reciprocated, because the girl was clueless about the guy's feelings for so long, and she developed platonic feelings as a result.
Many Christians see dating as little more than friendship and maintain the friendship aspect of their dating until both people are ready to commit to each other as potential marriage partners.
First and foremost, dating is a time when a Christian finds out if his or her potential marriage partner is also a believer in Christ.
Does God have one specific person for you to marry? What is an appropriate level of intimacy before marriage?
Are we supposed to be actively looking for a spouse?
Just as with the courting couple, the parents of the dating couple should be involved in the relationship, getting to know their child’s companion and being a source of wise and discerning advice and guidance for both of them.
Of course, the courtship style presents its own set of difficulties.
The extensive time talking and hanging out one-on-one; the close knowledge of the other person's hopes, desires and personality; the sharing of many aspects of each other's daily lives and routines; these all tend to involve means of relating that are appropriate for marriage — but not for relationships with (non-family) members of the opposite sex. Sometimes a man and woman get into a close friendship that just naturally develops into dating and beyond.
The Bible warns us that believers and unbelievers should not marry each other, because those living in the light (of Christ) and those living in the darkness cannot live in harmony (2 Corinthians -15).
As stated before, during this time there should be little or no physical contact, as this is something that should wait until marriage (1 Corinthians -20).
Courtship takes the position that the two people have no physical contact at all (no touching, no hand-holding, no kissing) until marriage.
Many in a courtship relationship will not spend any time together unless family members, preferably parents, are present at all times.